There is something about not being in dating world that makes me to happy that I am not anymore.
Being married just magnifies everything that is fucked up about dating. What games that would be pull, some of stupid shit that both sexes would pull and how something never change after being married.
Lets list them out:
All of these things would classify you as: Crazy Bitches or bastards - You know how you are and you need to stop these shenanigans. You make singles have a bad name when all we want to do is be ourselves but no you people of the female sex have to make us "normal non-crazy folk" twice as hard to convince the man that not all of us are in need of bipolar medication. You guys play a number of games that no one wins, no even you, and you still pull this crazy shit every other day and twice on Sunday.... What's with Sunday?!!!!
1. Controlling- We as humans have had the right to do what ever we please. We do not take being controlled well and for those who have an art of doing this you will be known as a douche bag.
I have heard of people being controlled to the very "t". I myself have been in one a victim of a controlling relationship. These people say they love you but they don't. They only love being the one that kick you down all the time. They want to control everything little thing you do because they have no self worth. The mind game they play is so evil, you have to wonder if the a children of Stephen King or Joan Rivers.
How can you tell if you are a controlling douche bag:
1. You call every three minutes to see where they are. We are where we want to be.... where ever you aren't get a clue.
2. You makes them stop talking to everyone that they know because you don't like them. If you don't like them that's because you know they can see through your bull shit.
3. If you feel like your words are not doing a good enough job bringing someone down and you have to hit them.... you deserve what ever come upping. No one, and I mean no one should be hitting you if they say they love you. That's not even human that is pure diabolical.
2. The Husband hunting or Wife hunters- stop trying to pin down a husband. I find that people who are getting closer and closer to 30-40 are in this rush to get married.
There is not rush to get married. I had a deadline of when I would have liked to have been married but I wasn't going to be surprised if it wasn't going to happen. I think of myself of a very difficult woman and knew it took a special breed of man to be my partner.
I have noticed there has been another rush to get married because of religion. This is a touchy subject that I don't agree with. I am married but I not one to believe you have to be married to go that next step.
3. Gold diggers. I HATE YOU. You feel like you have to have brand name everything to be happy. I don't think so. Get over yourself. Just because I have clothes that are from value village and ShopKo shoes does not mean that I am less of a person or that I don't deserve a nice guy.
Do not be one of those people that demand expensive thing and think that you deserve everything under the sun because you have with open your legs to a dude. This is why people hate you so much.
4. Baby makers. Do not play this game that you have to put holes in the condom to keep a man. This is the reason why men think that we are crazy. Do not play game of getting pregnancy test to keep a man. Do not say that you cant have kids to keep a man. This is all stuff that you should know,
5. Parents- I was single parent for a while and every time that I went on a date I made sure they knew that I have kids and that they didn't need to have dad, they already had one.
I really despise these parents that say they don't have kids until their partner is to far in to run away. They need to know that you have kids right away because then they know you are fertile and to wrap that shit up. If you don't tell them that you have kids then they think that you are looking for a baby daddy... oh hell no. You make sure that you let them know that because you have kids doesn't mean that they need a baby daddy. I was once accused of this and it made me so mad when I found out.
Don't push your kids on them after you tell them anyways. Chris did not meet my kids for a while and it was gradual.
6. Stalkers. Dude back off my Kool-Aid. I said I was not interested. There is a reason why I don't like you. You being on me like dog i heat is one of them.
It is really really simple. If they want to talk to you they will other was keep calm and move on. I really hate those type of people that hang on their phones and get all excited for something that is not for sure. Also another thing. Just because you had se doesn't mean you are in a relationship... it doesn't work that way.
7. The EX Code. Hell no. As soon as you break up all things a fair game. The is no girl code, there is no guy code. If you like them ask them out. If their EX has an issue and they are their friends, give them some friendly advise, grow a pair and get over it. This is not high school and this is not something that goes by code. Attraction is attraction.
I had something like this start my relationship with my husband. He had a one night stand that would not get it and when every time we went out there was a strange awkwardness because she would be watching us.
We went to our first party together just as friends. He had already slept with this woman and she was gushing about him at work but there was just something about him that I liked. I don't know if it was the radio announcing voice or the cool way he gave me his number but I knew that I liked him. We go to this party and on the way out there he asks me to not let them be alone because he was not interested and she was not getting it, Stalker. I tried my best but I had to go pee and there they were on the patio, he is corned like a puppy being punished and there she was punishing him with her stalker style. Needless to say that that I won him over and we thinking about gating and I lost her as a friend because of "girl code".
These Codes are just a sign of insecurity because you could seal the deal and act like a normal person.
8. TOXIC. These rare just thing that have run their course. It just like Billy Joel sang only the good die young. You cant make them love you, and they can't make you love them. Just let it go. You have to be happy or else you lose what happiness feels like.
The arguments are just fuel to the fire and there is nothing good about being with that person. The become controlling, and everything that you don't want in a partner. Leave, let go, Men are like buses and another will come along.
9. The changeling- these are people that just change for their partner because they have no idea who they are themselves. I did this for a while then a realized that I like being a nerd, i like baseball, i like being a loud mouth and I loved being me. Find who you are and run with it.
These are just something that hated to think about when I was dating.
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