Terms

I have been feeling that people are already placing me in the marriage category, just because my boyfriend is going to be signing up for the military. I say that he is going and so many are thinking that I am going to marry the man.

I love my boyfriend with all my heart but right now, I dont even want to think about getting married. Yes, I would like to have tht special someone for the rest of my life but right not I am not ready to settle down. I know many people are thinking that I am a commitment-phob and they are 100% right, I have been at the planning stages and never saw the finish a few times and I dont want to finish just to have it fall apart.

Plus there is another thing about it that I just dont like. You dont have to get married to have someone in the military. I dont want to get married just because of the great benefits and the locations. I want me to marry when I want to be married on my terms, not on anyone else's.

Here are my terms,

1. I am keeping my last name. Obeso-???? will be fine.
2. I am fairly domestic but not anyone's house wife.
3. There must be respect and honesty through the whole thing, we can not go to bed mad, and a fair player.
4. I am not having any more kids.
5. I am not going to be taking care of him and he isnt going to be taking care of me, we are going to be taking care of eachother and what we have together.
6. Tell me the truth and take what happens. Lie to me and take my foot up your ass.
7. Dont try to change me, it took me this long to be ok with me and if you arent... FUCK YOU!
8. Money is not that important to me and I know that it runs the world (into an fucking black hole) but I dont want to talk about money all the time.
9. It shouldn't work to be married it should be a prevlidge.
10. At night he needsto tell me he loves and hold me tight when I cry.

My boyfriend so far loves me this way and that all I want. When I an sad he lets me cry, if I want to sing on a bar, he helps me up and if I want to watch a horrible movie he is right there next to me.